Re: Monday Night Dinner? 6/02/2025

On 6/4/2025 2:13 PM, ItsJoanNotJoAnn wrote:

My mom was 16 when she and my dad married and were married
42 years when he died.  She was grieving terribly but one
of my brothers begged her watch his son, her grandchild, as
he started kindergarten.  She didn't want to, wanted to
be left to her grief but she said getting him ready daily
for school, waiting for him get out of kindergarten
around noon, fixing his lunch, and him being there with
her saved her sanity.  It gave her something to think
about and focus on him instead of constantly grieving
about my dad.
 Hopefully when your son moves in that will give her focus
on him such as cooking for him and have someone to talk
with.  I'm not implying she'll be his maid, but it gives
her something to do, to think about meals and him coming
home instead of dwelling on her lost life and lost partner.

Everyone is different but life has to go on.  What would the deceased person want you to do?  Probably to be happy, not be gloomy all the time.  Miss them?  Sure, always will.
If it is your spouse, perhaps you even discussed it.  There should be at least some basic ideas of what they want and expect.
I recently spent a week with my friend of nearly 50 years.  If there is a heaven and our late spouses are looking down at us, we know what they would say.  "Look at them, having a great time together, nice to see it"