Re: Monday Night Dinner? 6/02/2025

On Wed, 4 Jun 2025 14:00:09 +0000, flood of sins wrote:

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My father passed last october, my mom is still heavily grieving.
She acts like she's reverted from age 86 to age 6 and has
reclused herself to the house. Her health is good for her age
but she hasn't been eating well and is losing weight. My son got
a new job in Buffalo and is going to move in with her at the end
of the month. If she makes it that long. :/ She doesn't want to
go into assisted living, wants to stay in the house my parents
had built in 1962. They met when she was 16 and got married at
18. Never had a chance to do some life on her own and it shows.
A lot! She's totally lost without my father. If she doesn't start
living life again soon after my son moves in, as harsh as it sounds,
the best thing for her would be to join my father in the
mausoleum.
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My mom was 16 when she and my dad married and were married
42 years when he died.  She was grieving terribly but one
of my brothers begged her watch his son, her grandchild, as
he started kindergarten.  She didn't want to, wanted to
be left to her grief but she said getting him ready daily
for school, waiting for him get out of kindergarten
around noon, fixing his lunch, and him being there with
her saved her sanity.  It gave her something to think
about and focus on him instead of constantly grieving
about my dad.
Hopefully when your son moves in that will give her focus
on him such as cooking for him and have someone to talk
with.  I'm not implying she'll be his maid, but it gives
her something to do, to think about meals and him coming
home instead of dwelling on her lost life and lost partner.